What what point is it ok to walk away from a friendship? I’m not talking about the “we just had an argument because what I said was right, you know it, and we’re not going to speak for a couple weeks or months” walk away.
I’m talking about the kind of walk away where you have finally had enough of someone not taking care of them self. Them lying to do you about the smallest of things. Them enduring abuse and EVERYONE knows. You’ve been the only one that hasn’t sugarcoated anything with that person for however long you’ve been friends. You’re the only constant source of truth in their lives and both of you know it. But once again, that power that their abusive spouse/significant other has over them is the only force greater than your love as friends.
You promised this person that even if y’all don’t speak, you’ll always be there for them but now shit is a detriment to YOU. You sit around wondering is TODAY going to be the phone call saying they’re in the ER or worse? Or is it tomorrow? Do you stick around and watch their SUPER rapid downward spiral that you’ve already seen them go through not that long ago?
Or do you take care of yourself like you KNOW you should? You’ve been through your own trials and tribulations. Almost slipped jumped back into old form and that’s somewhere you’d rather not be…EVER again. The dilema is that you hate breaking promises, you hate feeling like you’re abandoning someone you “know” needs you..and THAT might send you back into the horrible place.
And then you realize that if they consistently and faithfully show you that THEY don’t care about themselves…why the fuck should YOU care? Are you not as compassionate as you thought you were? Did you just take the Number One Spot for “Most Selfish Person On Earth”?
You know what? This isn’t on you, this is on them. You can’t help anyone that doesn’t want to be helped no matter how much you want to. That’s life. Deal widdit.